Of all the real-life experiences I have heard, smoking usually starts as an experiment. A benchmark to be embarked in your youth. We know everything done within limits is good for us. Smoking being an exception altogether. It is not right anyways.
You might want your boyfriend to stop smoking because you feel like sitting next to an ashtray or perhaps you have a genuine concern more than anything else. Eitherways, you need to make your partner realise how essential it is for him to change his habit. Once both of you share the same school of thought, call it a PLAN.
This would be a journey and not a comfortable one. There would be roadblocks, times where he might be back to square one. Have patience. Support him sincerely.
When the body gets addicted to nicotine, it doesn't respond very well if you stop all of a sudden. Therefore have a process. Consult a doctor about all the methods that will help, such as quit-smoking classes and apps, counselling, medication, and hypnosis. Keep everything ready before the trek.
Here is a list of things you can do to help your partner in achieving his goal. Hope it helps.
Brainwash works a lot.
Discuss the aftereffects of passive smoking. Make him understand that what he is doing is not only bad for his own health but secondhand smoking is killing his near ones too.
Approach him in a way that he can see you as a support system.
Be prepared that quitting is not a cake walk. You should behave as a wall where he can lean and not where he would feel like banging his head.
You have to be consistent in your approach and motive. Keep persevering your efforts.
Gift him a diary and monitor it on a daily basis if possible. Ask him to jot down every activity, mood or anything that prompts him to take a puff.
Introduce him to the gang who has the same aim. It would be good in two ways. One, he would get company and most important he would realize how important is his mission. Encourage him to seek cooperation from family and friends too.
The plan to quit smoking should be on your top list. Plan your outings keeping in mind the mission.
If your guy is keen at making money, make use of this. Ask him to keep aside his daily expense on cigarettes aside. In no time he shall realise how much he is saving. For ones who do not fall in this category, allure by promising something grand at the end.
Be firm on not allowing smoke inside your home. Even if he does not cut it down initially, he will curtail his intake gradually. You get lazy once you get cosy within and then going out to give a puff loses the charm to quite an extent.
If he is used to having a puff after a drink or a cup of coffee, switch to remedial measures like having tea for a couple of weeks or curbing alcohol intake.
You might even suggest a mouthwash or brushing teeth.
Help him in clearing traces of nicotine from his surroundings. He won't have it if he doesn't see it.Get rid of all ashtrays, lighters, any clothes that smell like smoke.Go for carpet cleaning to avoid the hint of smoke. The idea being he shouldn't see or feel anything that reminds him of smoking.
Keep inspiring him and praise his efforts. Make him realize that what he is doing is not easy. Keep motivating him to override the challenges.
Nicotine replacement therapy and certain medicines are proven to be helpful to lessen your cravings and deal with aftereffects like headaches and restlessness. The keystroke is consistency at both the ends - you as a supporter and him as a doer.
If something other than this works for you, please share your tips with me at firstname.lastname@example.org.