Marriage is a beautiful phenomenon. It becomes a blessing if you have the right values, right partner and supportive family all at the same time. It is like a jigsaw puzzle. A single missing piece wouldn't make it possible to create the perfect picture.
To be married and to understand married life are two different things. There is no predefined manual stating the sanctity of married life. We build up our frame of mind around the concept on the basis of what we listen and see around us.
If you are married, you may have discovered the importance of the institution for yourself. If you have had a bad experience, however, there is hope. But that belief starts with realizing that marriage can be more amazing than you have experienced or even thought.
I've been married for many years and have experienced both the amazing as well as the very hard. My marriage made me happier and contended. My husband is my most significant support, and as a bonus, we have beautiful kids that came from our union.
Let me now tell you the lessons that you can learn from my experiences.
Marriage is a sacred institution for any girl. Commitment is just like a deliverable for a female mind - the bottom line in her to do list. In a broad sense, a man gets into marriage for the woman, but a woman gets into it for marriage itself.
God has gifted women with immense potential. The capacity to bear pain, patience, tolerance, wisdom is all unrivaled. Majority of marriages work till the woman compromises. The moment she puts her foot down, the castle breaks apart.
I believe, the young females are misconstruing the gender empowerment notions. Patience is our strength and not weakness. The power lies in your hands to make a relationship work (exceptions existing). Exercise it.
The very fundamental alteration which marriage brings is a change in the name or surname. I wonder why is a man's surname not changed?
Imagine a thriving professional Miss X being called as Mrs. Y after being married. Isn't it strange? Would it be easy to accept?
In a majority of the cases, the sole responsibility of the household is attached to the lady of the house. Whether it is kids, guests, holidays, household chores; the female has to be hands on. I have been lucky enough to be given the status of an individual even after I got married, but this isn't the majority. Why do career, friends, hobbies take a backseat for the females?
Two years after I got married, the common bandwagon I faced was about starting a family. I still do not understand why my decision about having kids was a cause of national concern.
A married woman more or less is expected to cook and pop out babies on a demand basis. Hilarious, but dreadful for obvious reasons.
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A working female compromises a lot on her career graph, her social life, and her interests. The irony is she is hardly given any credit for the same. It is by default the female's job to be present for every occasion, entertain people irrespective of her feelings towards them and still be judged.
The degree of such practices change with every household and depends by and large on your spouse. So all you girls out there, be aware of your lifestyle and make a smart choice.
My husband helps me out as and when possible. But there is one major flaw in our system which I dislike. When it comes to delegation, the man of the house gets up all the tasks that have to be done on a weekly, monthly or annual basis, while the woman ends up taking functions that are to be done on a regular basis. He is responsible for all the mending and fixing jobs which are of course best suited to his repertoire. Still, I am at a loss at the end.
The severity of such issues may vary depending on every household.
This is a one on one issue. Though it arises after a little while in individual lives, the impact can be terrible in certain situations. There are cases when you manage to grow with time, but the other one stays there. This is a kind of midlife crisis. You eventually lose connect with your partner. The underlying reason is since a woman is made to adjust to new situations and things, she becomes a quick learner. The apprehension quotient of a female is always higher than her male counterpart.
The usual necessary sacrifice every girl faces is entering a new household leaving her parents and family behind. The ultimate challenge she faces is the expectation of keeping everyone happy.
Why is one person coming from a different setup expected to adjust to every person in the new family? Wouldn't it be easy if every person gives a little effort to welcome the new entry and help settle her down? Believe me, if things happen this way, it would be a happy home and a prosperous household within no time.
Every girl dreams of getting married and nurturing a new life. I am sure every one of you must have witnessed this in your childhood games. This is the effect of external factors in our lives. This is where stereotyping starts from.
The grass is always greener on the other side. It is beyond the initial days of lovey-dovey charm and a grand welcome. Along with the admission comes a new set of responsibilities.
The good part is - with a little self-awareness and understanding on everybody's part; marriages would work well and not only benefit the individuals but the society on the whole.
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