Have you ever caught your man stealing a glance and checking out another woman? I am sure you did. How did you react? Did you get upset or stay calm?
A smart wife never overreacts. If you are one of those who wants to play it safe, you will just ignore. If you are one of the icebreakers or adventurer types, you would have joined in. And if you end up entering the comparison mode, you are inviting unnecessary stress. Try not to draw a comparison between the two of you. The difference would be primary. The fundamental point of disagreement is while women get attracted towards familiarity, men are more inclined towards novelty.
If you wonder why your man turned a blind eye towards such things in the initial phase of your relation, blame it on brain chemistry. Both of you were on a heightened love drive then, and the hormone secretion has slowed a bit now.
Treat it as a natural phenomenon and enjoy the flow. You are most worthy of his love and attention, and that is the reason he is by your side. For now, go ahead and find the reasons why he's a bit distracted.
Checking out the hot blonde crossing path is no big deal. It is just a guy thing. Goodness in life should always be appreciated by one and all. Why judge your hubby dear for simply endorsing beauty?
The male brain is hardwired to look at something that is visually interesting as soon as he spots it. This programming is at a subconscious level. So the chances are his eyes would roll even before the thought leaves his mind.
Based on the original hunter-gatherer instinct to spot the target, this masculine trait is entirely harmless. So need not be jealous, all you wives out there - it's a come and go thing.
The male brain chemistry acts a little weird at times. Finding something attractive and glancing at it is more of a feel-good factor for men. The hormone overpowers and boosts up their self-esteem. So, don't mind, try and understand.
Give a child to practice his free will for a day and see how happy he is. Same goes for your husband. The kick he gets after dreaming about his fantasies puts him at a different level altogether. Allow him a little freedom and be smart enough to reap the benefits thereafter.
When your husband looks back at some other female does not imply that he is drawing a comparison between the two of you. It is just a glance, nothing else. Do not let jealousy invade your relation. You will always be a high scorer.
Do not try to read between the lines.
A mere glance does not imply betrayal. Do not assume. You have your man should be a more convincing thought than the fact that he looked at someone else.
When your hubby looks at another woman, the look doesn't last too long. It revolves in your mind for a longer time in fact. He just takes it as a visual treat. Well, he should if he doesn't. Neither the glare lasts long nor does the story.
Trust me, it's makeshift.
Since the glance lasts for a short while, so does the scrutiny. All that his mind says is a "WOW or OMG." In a committed relationship, the husband does not relate his sexual desires with the hot chick. If you want to think about exceptions here, well... they are always there.
But no harm intended.
If you catch your better half staring at another woman, avoid reacting impulsively. The denial is almost confirmed. Your man would not want you to get upset about something that is kind of insignificant.
Don't judge him.
If you are a smart wife, you will definitely take it in your stride. It is indeed symbolic of the trust and openness that you both share in your bond. Since he is sure of the strength of the relationship that he is taking the liberty to do such a thing. The best approach would be to shortlist the options and convey your opinion. Your smartness would overrule the attraction of another woman.
Chill, have your cake and eat it too.
This is the best of all. Besides everything else, realize the fact that women are smarter at multitasking than men. I am sure you steal a look at handsome hunks too. But ahh...you are quicker, he doesn't even come to know half of the time.
Keep brushing your skills and enjoy. And remember, you just have to be yourself without getting affected by the environment and he'll love you.
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