"We are formed and moulded by our thoughts. Those whose minds are shaped by selfless thoughts give joy when they speak or act. Joy follows them like a shadow that never leaves them." - Buddha
In this competitive world, most of us barely ever get time for ourselves. Bound in a mundane daily routine, we have caged ourselves from the joy of living to the fullest. Our society teaches us to look outside ourselves in order to figure our lives out. If we aren't living our lives fully, how can we say that we're happy?
In order to figure our lifestyle, it is important that we talk to ourselves, to know the kind of person we are ourselves. We essentially have two relationships: With ourselves, and with others. And it is on us how we keep up with these relations.
From the book, 'Are You Connected?' by Venugopal Acharya, we bring you 6 important steps that can lead you to a better relationship with not only yourself but the others as well.
Just breathe, relax, spend time in nature, or write journals. This would slow down the mind, and increase present moment awareness. You'd instantly feel connected to yourself, and more energized.
While pleasure is addictive and keeps us hankering for more, a principle centered life provides deeper contentment. To put it simply, a culture of appreciation for others and gratitude for the gifts we have been blessed with fills our own heart with spiritual richness.
We feel the way we do because of our thought patterns. Change your thoughts and you'd see different feelings rise in your heart. Prayerful meditation or attentive chanting of Holy Names of God helps us replace negative self-talk with positive internal dialogue. This, in turn, helps us replace pain with divinity, and adds to our emotional treasure.
Instead of using coercion or even fairness in relationships, try the principle of service instead. A servant leader creates trust and thus has the greatest influence.
If we choose to challenge our own assumptions about others and sincerely try to understand their needs, interests and concerns, we'd have made a giant leap in improving our relationships at all levels.
Self-Acceptance and honesty help us also accept others for what they are. Constant judgement and control of others choke the joy out of our relationships. Each one of us is unique and has something wonderful to offer the world. When we recognize this in ourselves as well as others, we open doors for life-enhancing relationships, and then even our differences become an opportunity for celebration.
If we are anchored on these fundamental tools, we'd not only survive turbulent emotional cyclones but also thrive to make this world a better place for all to live and love.
The article is taken from the book, 'Are You Connected?', by Venugopal Acharya and was provided by Penguin Random House India.