Revealed: How Much Sex Do Couples Have, When In A Relationship For More Than 10 Years

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Revealed: How Much Sex Do Couples Have, When In A Relationship For More Than 10 Years
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When asked about the amount of sex a couple should have, there are varied views,  depending upon the needs and wants! But, when couples are in long-term relationships, the comfort level and the spark in their relation speaks volumes. Some manage to keep it up, even after not much sex, but some do not like to relax on this front and keep the bars high. Some couples, even after a long-term relation love to indulge in adventure on this front and also look into new fantasies!

When talked about sexuality, it comes synonymous with we being humans, a basic need. It can be an expression of life force, love, and creativity, too. But there are certain traits of couples in long term relationships such as, they embrace change, they listen to each other, they are practical, they keep dating each other and yet they remain individuals! Amongst all this, they also love some wild kinky fun, that keeps the fun factor in their relationship alive.

But, remember, sex is just too damn good for you to live your life without it!

Here is a mixed bag of confessions from couples on Reddit.

Cover image source- Photographer Natalia Mindru

#1. When there is no more s**!

#1. When there is no more s**!

The confession goes as:

"I'm in 11 years and it does not exist. I feel pretty strongly that she is no longer for me. It's really depressing. I have a kid and I'm hanging around only for him. She only has excuses and I hate to be that guy but I'm just tired."

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When there is a hike after a dip.

When there is a hike after a dip.
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The confession goes as:

"Married just under 25 years, together for 26 years, and parents of a 17-year-old and a 13-year-old. It's regular, but long hours and travel for work definitely put a cut down on frequency. The low point was probably when the kids were both under 10 and needed more attention, leaving us both exhausted at the end of the day.

While the frequency is down from our younger years, the sex is much, much better. It comes from knowing each other so well, knowing that a touch here or there at a certain time will send the other to the edge or over it."

It is all good, back on track now! Everything's coming on roses now.

It is all good, back on track now! Everything's coming on roses now.
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The confession goes as:

"Married 16 years, together 23; both work long hours and have 2 children. Sex life was pretty good - averaging 1.5 times a week maybe. Discovered D/s recently (well, discovered it a while ago, started taking it seriously recently) and it's at least four times a week now."

When it is all hale and hearty, even in sex life. 

When it is all hale and hearty, even in sex life. 
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The confession goes as:

"We're at about 15 years. Sex is plentiful. In fact, we've had sex every day this week. I'm ovulating."

When it feels like a lost charm and lasts not more than 4 times a year.

When it feels like a lost charm and lasts not more than 4 times a year.
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The confession goes as:

"Married 12 years, in a relationship for 15. Sex happens about 4 times a year."

When age is just a number, even in bed! *Plentiful*

When age is just a number, even in bed! *Plentiful*
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The confession goes as:

"28 years here.........and wonderful......and thoughtful.........and still experimental............"

For even cuddling can do wonders, leave alone sex! "He snuggles into me every night."

For even cuddling can do wonders, leave alone sex! 
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The confession goes as:

"Female here. We've been together for 12 years. In the beginning, (age 18) we had sex 2-3 times a week. After we were married, (26 year old) it was way more often probably 4-5- times a week. After our first child, (28 year old) it slowed down to about once a week or less. It ebbs and flows depending on sleep, work, etc. But even when there is no sex, there is always intimacy. We talk and make each other laugh everyday. We make sure to let each other know when the other has done a good job, and also let each other know when we need help. He always snuggles with me for at least a few minutes before we go to bed. I find that when my husband does something thoughtful for us (not flowers, but like emptying the dishwasher or spending family time without being urged) that I really want to bang his brains out. As we have grown older, I have found that being completely honest in the bedroom keeps things hot and satisfying. I love when he shares any new desire, and I do my best to fulfill it, and he does the same for me. looking forward to growing old with him."

When those little gestures of a pat and a stroke work wonders... That's the best way to do it!

When those little gestures of a pat and a stroke work wonders... That's the best way to do it!
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The confession goes as:

"Married 10 years, together for 16. It is less frequent, sure, but better every time than the last. Also, little gestures like a stroke here or a pat there are very intimate and convey pure love and desire, even if we're too fucking tired to do anything more."

It is all about trust and some adventure, while at it!

It is all about trust and some adventure, while at it!
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The confession goes as:

"Got married when I was 19 and he was 21, been married 15 years. It's still great, I'm not sure where I would be if he hadn't have happened to me. I think I love him more now than when we first got married. The sex is still great, as we trust each other enough now to be okay with getting shot down on trying something new. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world."

Mission accomplished, despite all hardships. 

Mission accomplished, despite all hardships. 
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The confession goes as:

"Married for almost 18 years. Together for 21. It has gone down in the last few years. The wife was rear ended at a very high rate of speed by a drunk driver. She has major back issues, but we work around it with toys, oral, and a lot of mutual masturbation.

It's always been hit and miss, more on the hit side. We have had an FFM 3 some 5 times during the marriage. She enjoys being with the other F. I try not to get in the way and screw things up when it happens. I love watching the pleasure she gets from it. She is a very loving wife and doesn't ask for much out of me. She will put on heels and stockings for me when I ask for it and pretty much everything is open for play or experimentation in the bedroom (oral, anal, toys, etc). All she asks in return is that I appreciate her and tell her I love her. We have 2 teenagers and it grosses them out that we are still so affectionate towards one another. Mission accomplished."

When there is a change in the tricks, due to change in bodies with age, but it is still as fun!

When there is a change in the tricks, due to change in bodies with age, but it is still as fun!
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The confession goes as:

"Married nearly 25 years, together for over 27 years. We still have sex regularly, though not as often as when we were younger. Sex often changes over the years. In some ways, it is much better than when we were younger because we know and trust each other so well. We know what each other likes and dislikes. On the downside, our bodies aren't what they were when we were younger so there are some things we don't do anymore because the body just doesn't work that way anymore."

When engrossed so much in the feel that time of conception is also forgotten!

When engrossed so much in the feel that time of conception is also forgotten!
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The confession goes as:

"Married 8, together 10, friends/acquaintances for 16.

Regular sex, just found out she's pregnant last week. Impossible to nail down date of conception."

When it has been all amazing and mind-blowingly good, even at 41!

When it has been all amazing and mind-blowingly good, even at 41!
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The confession goes as:

"Married 20 years, dated for a year before that.

It was on like Budokan for the first year or so. Nightly lovin'.

Then, our first child was born...

In the intervening 19 years, I know that we've had sex at least 3 times, because we have 4 kids total. So I'd guess somewhere between 3 and 7. (Gross exaggeration, but we did go a calendar year without making love...ugh)

Then she hit 41 (last August). "Her Stride" as I like to call it. Every other night now. She initiates, dresses up, tries new things, mixes it up a bit...our sex life is amazing."


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These confessions are extremely honest at heart, do give in yours in the comments section below. 


Stay tuned, folks.