On 20-Feb-2017 In Relationship
It's tough to be in a long-distance relationship. There are several factors that come into play that lead to LDRs not working out, out of which, the seven prime reasons are listed here. And as one might guess, the factors that work against LDRs are the ones which are the most sensitive to proximity. But that said, a lot depends on how much attraction there is between the partners. These factors, that are often seen to work against LDRs, can easily be worked around if only there is enough dedication in both partners. But nothing says that it is easy. It requires a strong character to make a long-distance relationship work. And knowing the factors that could lead to your LDR becoming unsuccessful in the future is a good heads-up for anyone who wants to make sure that their relationship survives through their time of physical separation.Although this article might seem to have a very pessimistic outlook towards long-distance relationships, it's actually more like a list of things one has to take care of to make a long-distance relationship work. Check it out!
And so, it's no surprise that more often than not, they don't really work out...
We have a list of the biggest reasons that lead to LDRs failing, so one can try to focus on these points and work on them to maybe help their relationship survive through the physical separation.
Although trust is a basic requirement of any type of a relationship, LDRs tend to demand a lot more trust than the usual, short-distance ones. That's because you don't get to see your partner often, and so you need to be able to trust him or her without having to check up on your partner.
It requires strong self-character to be able to take yourself through your moments of weakness and not cheat on your partner, no matter how much hard it might be. That said, it's probably better to not enter an LDR if you already know you don't have the kind of commitment it requires from you to make it work.
But that's not a given thing. Just because the distance causes frustrations doesn't mean that it will lead to fights, if only you're careful about it. Fights are never good for any sort of relationship, and it's important to take care not to let anything, even the distance, cause any.
Blaming everything on the distance won't help, because if the fights between the partners take place because of something other than distance, then they'll have to work on that factor as soon as possible. LDRs often mask the true reason causing the fights between the partners, and that ultimately leads to them breaking up in the future.
Looking into the future in which the two partners can live together in the same place helps a lot to get through the period of physical separation. And so, as is obvious, an LDR can only work if there is such a future to which the partners can look forward to.
Yes, after months and months of calling, there comes a time when couples run out of topics and that's when things get messy.
This is something that affects many couples who are boundaries apart and it requires huge sacrifices to manage and tackle this.